I Wish I Had Done Something

It was a few years ago now but I remember it like it was yesterday. I was showering and as we are all taught to do, I was doing my regular check for anything irregular and there it was.  I felt around for ages hoping I was imaging things but no, there was definitely a lump there that I hadn’t felt before.  

Panic set in, I started to shake and every emotion you could think of rushed through me. All of a sudden I had what seemed like millions of conversations going on in my head.

“Right, don’t worry just get it checked out”

“But what if it is”  ( I couldn’t even allow myself to think the word let alone say it)

“No it can’t be”

“But what if it is”

I stayed in the shower for what seemed like hours (probably only a few minutes).  Maybe I thought if I stayed there it would just wash away.  I really don’t know what was going through my head but getting out of the shower meant I had to do something about it.

I said nothing to anyone.  My head was spinning all day, I couldn’t focus on anything or anyone, I was totally incapable of doing my job, I just wanted to go home and hide under the duvet.

I didn’t sleep much that night and still I said nothing to my husband.  It was like if I said it out loud it made it more real.

Next morning the lump had grown to the size of a grape and it was sore.  I felt relief that it was sore. I was sure I had read somewhere that the other type of lump wasn’t sore so surely this must be a good thing?

I had another day pretty much like the last, didn’t talk to anyone and hid inside my shell.  Kept telling myself that it would be okay, after all it was sore.  It wouldn’t be sore if it was .. you know..

That night I got into bed.  My head hurt and I was really couldn’t think straight.  Eventually my husband asked what was wrong.

I started to cry… well it was a bit like a waterfall actually, once I started I couldn’t stop.  He waited patiently for me to gather myself together and then I told him.  Obviously he was devastated – he aged about 10 years in that 10 seconds.  But he is a practical person and soon took control and made me see that I had no option  but to get this checked out.

Another sleepless night passed and the next morning the lump was about the size of a small egg and was so painful I could hardly lift my arm.  By then I was so tired and worn out that I didn’t have the energy to object to my husband ringing the doctor – he got me an appointment that morning.

 I was absolutely terrified.  I was too young. I didn’t want to leave my kids, who would look after them?  Their dad was in America. Why  me? I am fussy about what I eat, I don’t smoke, I drink the odd glass of wine, I exercise a little (probably not enough).  I really tried to live a good clean life.  

I thought of my mum.  I had lost her to bone cancer which I always believed was caused by stress (my dad had been ill for many years and she was sole carer).  Maybe that was it – my job was fairly stressful.  What on earth was I doing in a stressful job – I know what stress can do!

Within an hour I had been seen by the doctor and had an appointment with the consultant at the hospital that afternoon. The doctor was quite reassuring but didn’t say too much.

I was lucky, I had private medical insurance through my job so I didn’t have to wait.

Well, I can’t describe to you the relief that I felt when the consultant confirmed it was a breast cyst and not the big C!  The cyst was drained in a matter of minutes and it was all over. That was less painful than the mental torture I had gone through.  I cried and laughed all at the same time and felt so weak as the relief flowed through me. 

The one thing that stuck with me though was that my consultant had asked me about the deodorant I used and recommended that I look for a deodorant that did not contain aluminium based compounds as, although no scientific proof exists, there had been evidence of traces of this in cancers that had been removed.

This was the start of my journey and I wanted to know what was in other products I used – I wanted these to be as natural as possible and give myself the best possible chance of remaining C-free for as long as I live.

So I studied natural products for 2 years and (after attending many courses in London) started to make my own products using Aloe Vera but although they were great, they were expensive.  My next move was to find someone who produced natural products that would meet my needs.

I was recommended by a friend to try Forever Living Products deodorant.  It was the most natural deodorant I could find and was just as effective as other deodorants I had used. I really liked it and felt good about using something that “might” help keep me C-free.

As a natural progression I started to use other natural products from the Forever range.  Most of these products are based on pure aloe gel which has a compound that allows the aloe to be absorbed more deeply into the skin and tissues where it will do the most good.  This also means that anything else in the product (i.e.antioxidants vitamins, minerals etc) will also be better absorbed by the body. I have to say that my skin, hair and teeth have never been in better condition.  Digestive problems I had suffered with have been reduced by around 90%.  I no longer suffer so much with arthritis in my fingers – this used to be so painful in the winter it was agony.  I have more energy, I sleep much better than I used to, my immune system is stronger (I haven’t had so much as a sniffle in the last 18 months) and I have managed to lose that additional stone in weight I had been carrying around for years.

I have Forever to thank for my good health today and this is the reason I joined the company.  I have made some great new friends, I can afford the products (which I have to say aren’t the cheapest on the market but are the most effective ones I could find) as I get a fabulous discount having joined the company, but most of all I have a way to help others suffering with these types of problems and more.

I know that sometimes it is outside of our control and no matter what we do to keep ourselves free of disease it might end up that it still happens BUT if I do end up with something nasty I want to be able to say that at least I did everything possible to prevent it.  How would I feel if all I could say is… I wish I had done something.

Thank you Forever and thank you to the wonderful Aloe Vera plant without which we wouldn’t have these fantastic products.  Mother Nature really does know best!

I would urge anyone who is worried about anything that they are not sure of – please, please do not wait – go and get it sorted NOW!



Ways To Boost Your Fertility When Trying For a Baby


The statistics show that while one in six couples has trouble conceiving, the most common cause is ‘unexplained infertility’, rather than hard medical reasons, such as blocked Fallopian tubes or ovulatory failure.

However, a study by the University of Surrey gives hope that ‘unexplained infertility’ is not as inexplicable as previously believed.

It shows that couples with a history of infertility, can achieve a phenomenal 80 per cent success rate if they alter their lifestyle, diet and take nutritional supplements.

Foods you should be eating every day and why!

Eat your greens Green leafy vegetables such as broccoli, brussel sprouts and spinach along with salad need to be part of your daily intake.

These are all great food because they are high in iron and folic acid.

Iron and folic acid are needed to help the cells in your blood carry more oxygen throughout your body and deliver more oxygen to the egg you are ripening in your ovaries – so you produce healthier eggs. Blood flow to the ovaries is essential for good ovarian health.

They are so important in your diet as iron and folic acid help your body to produce healthier cells and prevents your baby from having problems with his/her spine.

Red and Orange vegetables such as carrots, sweet potatoes, red and yellow peppers

These foods that are rich in betacarotene which is a known fertility food because it balances a females hormones and helps regulate the menstrual cycle. These foods can help to reduce the chances of having a miscarriage.

Wholegrain foods including wholegrain breads, lentils, beans and brown rice. These are all rich in iron and Vitamin B.

Deficiency in Vitamin B is linked to sterility. Depletion of Vitamin B is also linked to miscarriage and low birth weight babies.

Vitamin B2 is also used by the liver to clear away old unused hormones such as oestrogen and progesterone. Stale hormones get stored in the body which fools your body into thinking it has enough hormones. The body then won’t make more of the hormones you really need – so sabotaging your chances of conceiving.

Vitamin C. Vit C has been researched and proven to help men have better sperm and the sperm tend to be better “swimmers”. A healthy sperm can move more quickly and have a better chance at fertilising an egg.

(Vitamin C also prevents the sperm from sticking together and that’s why they are better swimmers).

Vitamin C is also proven to improve the quality of a woman’s egg and research has shown that if a woman is taking traditional infertility drugs , if she takes vitamin C along with these drugs the chances of her getting pregnant are greatly increased.

Vitamin C is also often recommended to women trying to conceive because it can increase the level of the hormone progesterone which helps regulate the menstrual cycle, helps thicken the lining of the uterus and can help reduce stress levels.

Good sources of vitamin C include citrus fruits, broccoli and green peppers.

WARNING. Be careful not to eat too many oranges or drink too much orange juice when you are about to ovulate as this can cause vaginal secretions to become extremely acidic and can destroy your partner’s sperm.

Chicken Eggs. You should be eating 2 eggs a day whilst trying to get pregnant.

Eggs have fantastic nutritional qualities as they are very high in protein and contain lots of minerals.

This helps to improve the health of your reproductive system and helps you to receive and nourish a healthy growing baby.

You need to eat the right food and the right nutritional supplements at the right time to give your body the best chance you can to grow a healthy baby.

While it’s great to get the right amounts of vitamins, especially during pregnancy, getting too much of some vitamins can actually be harmful to a developing foetus

Too much vitamin A, in the form of retinol, may increase the risk of birth defects in your baby. Retinol is also found in high doses in liver and liver products, such as pate. Vitamin A is fat soluble, which means it is stored in your body in your liver and fat tissue. Taking large doses of vitamin A over a long period of time can build up to toxic levels.

“One supplement that is known to be recommended is a daily 400 micrograms (mcg) dose of folic acid. This is in addition to eating foods with naturally occurring folic acid, called folate, such as spinach, broccoli, beans and oranges.

Folic acid protects an unborn baby from developing a neural tube defect (NTD), such as spina bifida. Take folic acid while you are trying to conceive and, once you’re pregnant, for the first 12 weeks. “
Sarah Watkins, Dietician, The Baby Centre

So to recap so far:

For both partners

Commit to getting yourself in the best possible health
Quit smoking and drinking
Do not take non-prescription drugs
Exercise daily
Reduce stress levels
Eat the right foods
Take the right supplements

Especially for the men:

Do not carry mobiles in your pocket ( and preferably not on your person)
Do not have very hot baths, saunas or jacuzzis

You are now well on your way at this point to improving your chances of conceiving and having a nice healthy body for your baby to develop and grow strong and healthy.

This information is provided for the purpose of making you aware of the importance of eating the right foods so as to prepare your body to produce heathy eggs and create the best nest possible for your baby to grow.

Please consult with your doctor for medical advice.

Feel free to contact me if you are having problems getting pregnant and would like a free one to one consultation. My contact details are on my website http://www.time4healing.co.uk.

Sleep well !

Complementary Therapist

Sabotaging your chances of getting pregnant?

We all want to be sure that our baby has the best start in life so we need to ensure that both mum and dad to be are in the best of health before they conceive the baby.

So, things to stop doing as soon as you decide you are going to start trying for a baby:

1. If you smoke now is the time to stop.

Did you know that smoking:
Makes it harder to get pregnant
Increases your chances of a miscarriage
Can cause problems to the placenta – the source of the baby’s food and oxygen during pregnancy
Can cause the baby to be born prematurely
Is a risk factor of sudden infant death syndrome
Both female and male smokers have lower fertility levels – male smokers tend to have a sperm count that is 15% lower than that of non smokers

For more details on the risk of smoking during pregnancy see http://www.netdoctors.co.uk/health_advice/facts/pregnantsmoking.htm

If you need help to stop smoking go to http://www.smokefree.nhs.uk where they offer free products and support. For those Outside the UK you will need to google search for “help to stop smoking”


2. If you drink alcohol now’s the time to stop drinking

Everything you eat or drink will be absorbed by the placenta and you will share it with your baby.

The Department of Health and the Royal College of Midwives say it’s safest not to drink any alcohol in pregnancy. The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence says that you shouldn’t drink any alcohol in your first trimester, because of the risk of miscarriage.

Some research suggests that it won’t harm your baby if you have the equivalent of a small glass of wine, once or twice a week.

However, it makes sense not to drink during the first 12 weeks. These are the weeks when the building blocks of your baby’s brain and major organs are being laid down.

Or you may prefer not to drink throughout your pregnancy, because then you can be sure that your baby will be safe from the effects of alcohol.

If you do drink while you’re pregnant, have no more than one or two units of alcohol, no more than once or twice a week, and never enough to get drunk.

Getting drunk by heavy or binge drinking during your pregnancy can harm your baby. Heavy drinking is having six or more units of alcohol in a day. Binge drinking is five or more units of alcohol in one session.

What harm can drinking do?

When you have an alcoholic drink, the alcohol goes into your bloodstream. Once alcohol is in your bloodstream, it reaches your baby across the placenta.

Going beyond light, occasional drinking puts your baby at risk of developing problems that will last a lifetime. These problems range from fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASD) to fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS), depending on how heavy or frequent your drinking is.

Babies born with FASD may have problems with attention, learning and social understanding, as well as speech, and often don’t grow as well as they should. A baby born with FAS, the most severe condition caused by alcohol, may also have brain damage and abnormal facial features.

Regular and/or heavy drinking during pregnancy also puts you at risk of having a miscarriage or premature birth. It may even increase the risk of your baby being stillborn.

If you’re finding it hard to cut down on alcohol, talk to your doctor or midwife. They won’t judge you, and will help you to have the healthiest possible pregnancy.


If you are being prescribed drugs by your doctor, check in with him/her to discuss if they will have any effect on you trying to conceive.

If you are on non-prescription drugs, then like alcohol these are likely to affect your baby. The baby can even be born with an addiction to that drug.

Illegal drugs such as marijuana and cocaine can seriously affect fertility, making ovulation (the monthly cycle where an egg is released from the ovaries) more difficult.


The more relaxed you are the better your body systems function. Stress can make women infertile, research has revealed.

Scientists found that those with high levels of a stress hormone stop ovulating and are therefore unable to conceive.

Severe stress may also affect female ovulation and limit sperm production.

Keep your stress levels as low as possible by listening to calming music, exercising, relaxing with friends, watching comedy ( I always found Harry Hill or You’ve Been Framed made me laugh so much my stress seemed to just disappear). Laughter is a great stress buster.

Learn to recognise when you are beginning to feel stressed and take action to release it before it takes over.

Now, I did say that commitment was needed in order to have a healthy and happy baby so if there is anything here that you do then you need to change that habit and stop doing it!

Apologies if its all been a bit doom and gloom today but it had to be said and best to get it over and done with early so we can start focusing on the positives!


Before I finish for the day I have two hot tips especially for the daddies to be.

TIP 1 Don’t carry your mobile phones in your trouser pocket – cell phones carried in your pocket will fry your sperm.

TIP 2 Stay away from really hot baths, saunas and jacuzzis – these will boil your sperm!

Still ready to commit? Great. Tomorrow we will be looking at what foods to eat to enhance your chances of becoming pregnant and having a healthy pregnancy and a healthy happy baby.

Sleep well!

Complementary Therapist

Not Getting Pregnant – What am I doing wrong?

If you’ve been trying for a baby for more than 12 months and the doctor says there is no medical reason why you can’t conceive then why isn’t it happening?

The number of clients I am seeing in my reflexology practice for this very reason has been steadily increasing.

Being the naturally inquisitive person I am, I wanted to find out how we could improve peoples chances of becoming parents and help them realise their dream of holding their baby in their arms.

So, what can we do?

Well we’re not miracle workers and there’s no guarantee that it will work, but at the very least we will help you to get your body and your mind into the right condition for conception and incubation. This will increase your chances of conceiving a healthy baby more quickly and reduce the risk of miscarriage.

There are many things you can do to improve your chances of becoming pregnant and on the other side of the coin, there are many things you can stop doing. Some of the things we do as “the norm” on a daily basis could possibly be sabotaging the chances of having a baby. (Don’t worry we will be discussing this shortly.)

Are you committed?

From the minute you decide to start trying for a baby you need to commit to ensuring your body and mind are in the very best of health or at the very least you are going to do everything in your power to get them to optimum health. If you are not ready to make this commitment, then it may be that you are not ready to start a family.

This process will more than likely mean making serious changes to your lifestyle. Are you ready to make changes to your lifestyle?

If you’re ready to commit and you’re ready to make some serious changes to the way you live in order to increase your chances of conception then watch out for my next blog when we’ll look at what could be sabotaging your chances of getting pregnant.

Until tomorrow – get a good night’ sleep!!

(Complementary Therapist for almost 10 years)

Snoring! Is this causing a problem in your life?

For many years we have had restless nights, with broken sleep.  We woke up tired and irritable and usually in different beds because one of us has had to move to the spare room during the night?

Snoring can not only damage your relationship but it can also damage your health ( see  http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/guide/snoring). We have tried all sorts of nasal sprays, throat sprays, mouth pieces, lying on one side then lying on the other, ear plugs of various types etc. etc. You name it we have tried it.

Then a colleague told me of something she used that worked for her and I thought we might as well give it a go as there was nothing to lose. It was a product that I had in my home, although I used it for lots of things other than snoring.

So for the last 6 nights my husband has been trialling this for me and it has been absolute bliss! I am getting to sleep without the irritation of snoring going on beside me (a real bonus as I am quite a light sleeper), I am staying asleep and we are waking up in the same bed!

I’m a bit dubious about getting anyone’s hopes up but if you would like to join our “trial” I would love to hear from you. Just email me to geraldinelay@sky.com and we can take it from there!

Looking forward to more great night’s sleep and more energetic days ahead!

Help Increase Your Energy Levels and Reduce Insomnia Problems

Ever feel tired and lethargic?

Do you notice a loss of muscle tone or perhaps your muscles are tender?

Not sleeping as well as perhaps you think you should?

Maybe your concentration or your memory is not as sharp as you think it once was.

Are you anaemic?

Could it be your body is deficient in something and it’s making you feel this way?

If you are suffering from any of the above it may be that you are deficient in Vitamin B.

So let’s take a look at Vitamin B – well actually it is not just one vitamin.  Vitamin B consists of a group of vitamins namely  B1, B2, B6. B12, Folic Acid,  Niacin (B3), Panthothenic Acid (B5) and Biotin.  All these vitamins make up what is known as B Complex.

The B vitamins are water-soluble vitamins.  Water-soluble vitamins cannot be stored by the body and need to be ingested every day.

B vitamins do not provide the body with fuel for energy, however they do help the body to use the fuel to provide energy.  Some of the B vitamins form part of the coenzymes that assist certain enzymes in the release of energy from carbohydrates, fats and proteins.  Other B vitamins play a big role in metabolism.  Others help cells to multiply – some of these cells being the red blood cells and cells that line the gastrointestinal tract – cells that deliver energy to all the others.

The B complex group of vitamins all work together synergistically like one big happy family. An excess in one could produce a deficiency in another.  For this reason, if you decide to take a Vitamin B supplement, it would be better to choose a B Complex rather than individual B vitamins.

A shortage of one of the B complex group of vitamins can hinder many metabolic processes – another good reason to take a B Complex.

So what can cause a deficiency in B Vitamins?

A diet high in refined carbohydrates, alcohol abuse, overuse of antacid drugs, the contraceptive pill, smoking and stress can all cause a deficiency in B vitamins

How do I top up my Vitamin B naturally?

You can increase your intake of the B vitamins by eating foods such as: liver, kidney, nuts, egg yolks, milk, dark green vegetables, pulses, wholemeal cereals, and fish.  But remember these vitamins need to be topped up daily!!

An outline of each of the individual B vitamins:

B1 (Thiamine) – Rapidly destroyed by heat – essential for complete aerobic release of energy from carbohydrates.

B2 (Riboflavin) – Concerned with carbohydrate and protein metabolism, especially in the eyes and skin.

B3 (Niacin) – helps in breakdown of fats, inhibits the production of cholesterol, and is associated with energy-releasing reactions in cells.

B5 (Pantothenic Acid) – involved in energy production, production of anti-stress hormones, controlling fat metabolism. formation of antibodies, maintaining healthy hair, skin and nerves

B6 (Pyridoxin) – crucial to blood formation and energy production and has anti-depressant and anti-allergy functions.

B12 (Cyanocobalamin) – essential for production of red blood cells which carry oxygen to al other cells in the body, needed for making use of protein, detoxifies smoke and other toxins in food

Folic Acid – Only a very small amount of Folic Acid is stored in the body and as it is essential for DNA synthesis, when it is lacking then cell division is impaired and it can lead to anaemia.

Biotin (an unofficial B Vitamin) – associated with the metabolism of carbohydrates

Lots of these vitamins can lose their goodness into the water when boiled.  A better method of cooking which will help to keep from destroying the vitamins would be to steam them.

Forever Living Products have an amazing range of high quality supplements all the components of which we either produce ourselves or we control the ingredients from source .  For example in our Forever Living Aloe Vera Drinking gel (which contains all of the vitamins we are talking about)  we grow and process all our own aloe vera plants organically.

This little video will give you an idea of how we do this

Our topic tomorrow will be on how to fight off cold and flu, give your body another dose of antioxidants and a further boost in energy levels.  In the meantime if you would like to learn more about our company, our supplements or any of our other natural aloe vera based products please visit  our website http://www.geraldinelay.myforever.biz

Thank you for popping by!

What do you treasure most in your life?

If you ask anyone around you “What’s your most treasured item?” what do you think they’d say?  I’m betting it would be something like my car, or my house, or my gold bracelet or something else that is materialistic.  What would you say was your most treasured item?

We all love the “things” we have around us and I guess if we had more money we would buy even more things.   And if money was no object, WOW we could have anything we wanted – holiday homes, islands, aeroplanes, boats (although I’m not keen on flying or sailing so they would probably come last on my list of most wanted).

Well I guess it’s an age thing, but the older I get the less materialistic I become.  Yes I still like my house to be nice, I still drive a nice little MX5 (albeit she is nearly 10 years old, but I do love her) and I still like to have some nice clothes to go out in BUT for me, the most treasured thing we can have is our health.

We spend lots of money on all those other things yet somehow we are not always happy to spend money on preventative health care.   And without our health we have very little.  Without good health we may not be able to walk, or talk very well, or be able to go on holiday, or play with our children, or be able to get our of bed in the mornings unaided (if at all), or even breathe without help of a machine.

Isn’t it a good idea to put our health and our bodies first?  Well, yes I think it makes sense, so why is it that many people don’t.  They smoke excessively, they drink excessively and they don’t exercise their muscles and joints – and then they wonder why they aren’t able to enjoy good health in later years.   Is it because we are just lazy and can’t be bothered to make the effort or is it due to lack of education?   They say ignorance is bliss – REALLY?

I think it is partially down to both – so here’s a little start on getting educated towards a healthier you!

Question:  Do I know what to put into my car to give it energy and help it perform to it’s optimum?  Oil and fuel – right?

Question:  And do I know what oil and what fuel to put in?   Unleaded/super unleaded/diesel and lubricating oil –  right??

Question: And do I also know what would happen if I put the wrong oil and fuel into my car?  It wouldn’t perform too well and may just breakdown – right again??

Isn’t it just the same for your body??

Do I know what to put into my body to give me energy?  Well, food and water of course.

But, do I know what type of food to eat AND WHAT’S IN THAT FOOD in order to keep my body in a healthy state. I think most of us do, or think we do, and most of us know what not to eat but it’s hard to resist sometimes (especially chocolates and biscuits and crisps mmmm…. and the list goes on).  Or at least we have an idea of some foods that might be better than others.

Anyway I wanted to be sure and not second-guess.  I want to eat well and enjoy a healthy retirement one day so I am  getting to learn about food and what I need to get from my food in order to achieve this – thought I would share it with you on the way.

So here’s my first lesson in layman’s terms  – VITAMINS

Why do we need vitamins?

Vitamins are like the spark plugs in a car, they energise and regulate our metabolism and keep us tuned up and running at high performance.  They give us vitality and are needed to support all our body systems and are used to allow other chemical reactions to take place in the body

Vitamins are required in very small quantities. There are two types of vitamins, fat-soluble vitamins A, D, E, and K and water-soluble vitamins, B complex and C.

Lets have a look at Vitamin A, where we get if from and why we need it.

Vitamin A is an antioxidant.  

In simplistic terms antioxidants fight off free radicals.  Free radicals can be caused by stress – the more stress we are under the more free radical damage in our bodies.  To fight free radical damage in our bodies, we need antioxidants which protect the cells.  If we fail to protect the cells, tissue can die, when tissue dies organs can die and when organs die, the body can die.

More and more people are becoming more stressed due to family pressure, job pressure, financial pressure and we need Vitamin A to help combat the stress this puts on our health.

We need Vitamin A to help our eyes and our skin stay healthy and to support our immune system.

Deficiency in Vitamin A can lead to poor night vision, dry flaky skin, acne, frequent colds or infections and mouth ulcers.

Main Foods that contain Vitamin A – Liver, eggs, full cream milk (Vitamin A is lost when milk is skimmed), butter, cheese, fish oils, green and yellow fruits and vegetables which contain beta-carotene (the body converts beta-carotene to Vitamin A as and when needed)

If you feel that you are not eating enough of these foods (or you have a dairy free diet) then you are able to get your vitamins through supplements.  If you are going to purchase supplements you need to make sure they are quality supplements made with quality ingredients.

Forever Living produce a supplement called A-Beta_Care – see http://www.geraldinelay.myforever.biz for details

If you need any further information please feel free to drop me a note.

Have a great day everyone!